Sons Have Grit and Grace

There’s a false dichotomy in the world today: you’re either tough or tender. You’ve got grit, or you’ve got grace. One makes you hard. The other makes you soft. But sons of God are made of both.

Modern culture — even inside the Church — has confused real sonship with soft spirituality. Too many men think being a Christian means being nice, agreeable, aesthetically spiritual — like some hipster with a coffee and a curated vibe. Others think they have to swing the opposite way — dominate the room, lead with ego, and suppress anything vulnerable or gentle.

Both are off.

The Sonship life isn’t weakness disguised as kindness. And it isn’t bravado wrapped in insecurity. Jesus, the Son, is the perfect example — He had the courage to confront religious hypocrisy and the tenderness to weep at a friend’s tomb. He flipped tables in the temple and welcomed children to His lap. That’s grit and grace. That’s Sonship.

Grit doesn’t mean you power through on your own. It means you stay when it’s easier to run. You lead when no one else will. You bleed if that’s what love requires. But it’s not driven by ego — it’s rooted in identity.

Grace isn’t soft talk or passive living. It’s the strength to forgive when you’ve been wounded. The humility to admit you were wrong. The calm in the storm when others break down or blow up.

Sonship doesn’t make you less of a man — it makes you more of one. It calls you to stand up when you’d rather shrink back. To confront lies with truth. To carry weight and still kneel in worship. It’s not about a personality type — it’s about reflecting the Son.

The world doesn’t need more macho men or passive ones — it needs sons. Men who live with grit forged in the fire of obedience, and grace poured out from a heart that knows the Father.

So be both.

Be the kind of man who can take a hit and still believe. Speak truth with conviction and gentleness. Fight the good fight — and wash feet. Turn over tables when needed, and then turn your heart to the Father.

That’s the Sonship way. That’s the way of Jesus. And it’s never too late to walk in it.